Everyone talks about the law of attraction, but no one talks about detraction. What does detraction mean anyway? Detraction means a derogatory or damaging comment on a person’s character or reputation, the act of taking something away or lessening the value of something.
I like to think of detraction like having bubble gum stuck to my shoe. It’s nasty and disgusting, and I’ll do anything to get it off. It’s been chewed up and spit out, all of its flavor and nutritional value is gone, and what’s left of it is sticking to my shoe, accumulating more dirt and residue. It holds me back. It makes me feel incredibly uncomfortable. Hmm, it sounds like some of the people I used to know.
We’ve all experienced them, the people who are like chewed up bubble gum. They come into your life bursting with flavor and sweetness. You can’t get enough of them, you want to be with them every second of the day, savoring their taste, and believing that the feeling will last forever. Then, like chewing gum, they get hard and stale. It becomes harder to chew, so you spit it out. Only to step in it five seconds later. Then, they’re stuck to you. These are the toxic and manipulative people who lack substance. They are incredibly superficial, which makes them very fun in the beginning, but it’s not long before their true colors start to show.
You tell them that you need a break, some time off, you might even ignore them or screen your phone calls. But these people are relentless. They’ll use all kinds of manipulating tactics to keep you around including making you feel guilty, worthless, or some extreme situations, in fear. So then the cycle begins, some days are good, while others are just downright awful. They start to permeate almost every aspect of your life, until you reach a point where you dread being around them. This is detraction. These people are not only toxic but also deadlier than the Ebola virus. They are the ones who kill the human spirit with their endless demands and their unrealistic expectations about life. You can’t get mad at them. They’re like chewed up bubble gum, someone else had used them up, sucked all of the sweetness out so hardness is all that remains.
Detraction lessens the value of your relationship with others and with yourself. It makes you dependent, constantly looking for someone to fulfill your needs when the only person who can possibly do that is you. Real love is about selflessness and includes affording people the freedom that they need to grow and develop. There are many who believe that energy moves in two ways, up and down. People need to grow and evolve within themselves and in their relationships. If they don’t do this, then the force of gravity will pull them down. We all have a purpose in life, and when someone is discouraged from fulfilling their purpose, their spirit starts to die, a process that I call the law of detraction.
I remember my first reading.
I arrived a few minutes early, just in time to see my spiritual healer rip the fresh eviction slip off of her door screen. She greeted me with a cigarette dangling from her lip and then asked me to follow her downstairs. It was an eerie feeling, even from the start. She led me down a dark and smoky stairway until we reached a pit, she called the basement. She invited me to sit down in a flat beanbag chair.
Then, it started.
The whole experience was new and completely fascinating even if she was totally and completely wrong about me. Every so often she would turn her head from side to side as if the spirits were telling her something that was important about me. Then she would sit up, point her finger and scream out some bogus statement that wasn’t true at all.
This tactic is called cold reading.
The reader knows nothing about you; so they’ll throw out random statements, watch your face expressions and body movements to see which ones will stick. The clever ones will even ask you to write your name and birthday down so they can research your astrological charts using some free service on the Internet. Be Aware! Unfortunately, the problem isn’t the spiritualist or psychics.
The problem is the people who go to them.
Many are lost and trapped into a world of inner turmoil. They look for guidance, people to help them with their problems, only to find people who are more screwed up than they are. People who I call false Gods!
They’ll tell you exactly what you want to hear.
They are the ray of light, a beacon of hope and well sell you the Brooklyn Bridge if you’re gullible enough. It’s not that they prey on the weak; rather they prey on the misinformed. We are all Gods, and each of us has the ability to foretell and create our own lives and futures. We start to believe in false Gods when we discredit our own abilities and invest in others who are just as torn and screwed up as we are. A crazy person cannot teach another how to be sane. They can only teach you how to be crazy.
It is also important to understand that no one can heal you, change you, and chase away your bad spirits without your permission.
In the end, you’re the boss and you have the power to make executive decisions about virtually every aspect of your life. So how do you know if a psychic or spiritualist is good or bad? Well, they’re all good and bad. However, you have to decide which ones are going to help you on your spiritual journey and which ones are going to hinder you from reaching your fullest potential. Good teachers will teach you how to change your internal state and attract success, happiness, prosperity and abundance into your life.
Check out my e-course the Seven African Powers: The Stepping Stones To Enlightenment to learn about the importance of good healers and psychics. I can tell you one thing. They won’t live in small shanties, have relationship drama, or have their parole officer banging down their door. So be aware, and never stop believing in yourself.
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