The law of detraction
Everyone talks about the law of attraction, but no one talks about detraction. What does detraction mean anyway? Detraction means a derogatory or damaging comment on a person’s character or reputation, the act of taking something away or lessening the value of something.
I like to think of detraction like having bubble gum stuck to my shoe. It’s nasty and disgusting, and I’ll do anything to get it off. It’s been chewed up and spit out, all of its flavor and nutritional value is gone, and what’s left of it is sticking to my shoe, accumulating more dirt and residue. It holds me back. It makes me feel incredibly uncomfortable. Hmm, it sounds like some of the people I used to know.
We’ve all experienced them, the people who are like chewed up bubble gum. They come into your life bursting with flavor and sweetness. You can’t get enough of them, you want to be with them every second of the day, savoring their taste, and believing that the feeling will last forever. Then, like chewing gum, they get hard and stale. It becomes harder to chew, so you spit it out. Only to step in it five seconds later. Then, they’re stuck to you. These are the toxic and manipulative people who lack substance. They are incredibly superficial, which makes them very fun in the beginning, but it’s not long before their true colors start to show.
You tell them that you need a break, some time off, you might even ignore them or screen your phone calls. But these people are relentless. They’ll use all kinds of manipulating tactics to keep you around including making you feel guilty, worthless, or some extreme situations, in fear. So then the cycle begins, some days are good, while others are just downright awful. They start to permeate almost every aspect of your life, until you reach a point where you dread being around them. This is detraction. These people are not only toxic but also deadlier than the Ebola virus. They are the ones who kill the human spirit with their endless demands and their unrealistic expectations about life. You can’t get mad at them. They’re like chewed up bubble gum, someone else had used them up, sucked all of the sweetness out so hardness is all that remains.
Detraction lessens the value of your relationship with others and with yourself. It makes you dependent, constantly looking for someone to fulfill your needs when the only person who can possibly do that is you. Real love is about selflessness and includes affording people the freedom that they need to grow and develop. There are many who believe that energy moves in two ways, up and down. People need to grow and evolve within themselves and in their relationships. If they don’t do this, then the force of gravity will pull them down. We all have a purpose in life, and when someone is discouraged from fulfilling their purpose, their spirit starts to die, a process that I call the law of detraction.